Onuorah Nchedo

Chapter 6:  Hold Hands With Strangers; Everyday life can be incredibly hard, and the people around us can push us to the very edge of our nerves and our civility. Cover it all in leather; We think we could just get rid of everything or cover it with leather, our pain would go away.  If you work with your mind, instead of trying to change everything on the outside, that's how your temper would cool down. How do we cultivate and grow our belief in inextricable human connection internally? Show up for collective moments of joy and pain so we can actually bear witness to moments of joy and pain with strangers. What experience of collective joy and pain looks like; 1. You'll never walk alone. Inextricable Connection; The experiences of joy and pain that people feel, tells us what is true and possible about the human spirit. We need these moments with strangers as reminders that despite how much we might dislike someone on facebook or in person, we are still inextricably connected. ...

Chapter 7 Strong Back, Soft Front, Wild Heart; True belonging is more than strong back, soft front(courage & vulnerability). Once we've found the courage to stand alone, to say what we believe and do what we feel is right despite the criticism and fear, we may leave the wilderness, but the wild has marked our hearts. That doesn't mean the wilderness is no longer difficult, it means that once we've braved it on our own, we will be painfully aware of our choices moving forward. We can spend our entire life betraying ourselves and choosing fitting in over standing alone. But once we've stood up for ourselves and our beliefs, the bar is higher. A wild heart fights fitting in and grieves betrayal.  Strong Back; One way to strengthen our courage muscle is learning how to put BRAVING into practice; 1. Boundaries; Learning to set, hold and respect boundaries. The challenge is letting go of being liked and the fear of disappointing people. 2. Reliability:  Learning how to s...

Chapter 5:  Speak Truth To Bullshit. Be Civil "Someone who lies and someone who tells the truth are playing on opposite sides, so to speak, in the same game. Each responds to the facts as he understands them, although the response of one is guided by the authority of the truth, while the response of the other defies that authority and refuses to meet its demands. The bullshitter ignores these demands altogether. He does not reject the authority of the truth, as the liar does, and oppose himself to it. He pays no attention to it at all. By virtue of this, bullshit is a greater enemy of the truth than lies are." -  HARRY G. FRANKFURT Bullshit: Lying is a defiance of the truth while bullshitting is a wholesale dismissal of the truth. "If you're not with me then you're my enemy:" This is an emotional and passionate rendering of bullshit, it is a move to force people to take side.  If other alternatives exists then that statement is factually wrong. The ability ...